You Are A Badass
These past few months I’ve found myself in a weird place. I was laid off, mourning a long term relationship and the death of two close family members. I was in a funk, and moving back home to live with my mother for the first time since I left for college at age eighteen.
I was perusing Barnes and Noble one afternoon (I’m convinced only moms with young kids, the retired, and the unemployed still do this) escaping the summer heat, when I first saw it. It’s blazing yellow cover, with bold black type screaming at me: YOU ARE A BADASS – How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life.
I picked it up, spending some of the precious savings I had. I could use a reboot into an awesome life. I figured it was a great way to invest in myself.
If this $16 investment got me out of this funk or helped me get a job, it’d be worth it, right?
I was so wrong.
Sincero repeats the same few things, backtracks, and contradicts herself several times in the book. I ended up putting the book down for several weeks because I was upset with how the author described mental illness all as a creation of the afflicted.
If you just loved yourself more, you wouldn’t be depressed. You were depressed because you subconsciously wanted to be depressed.
At one point, the author references depression as someone’s “story” and how it’s simply easier to say your depressed because then you don’t have to do laundry or the gym, and this laziness is cosy and comfortable.
She romanticizes the feelings of isolation and the dependence on others as if it’s a conscious decision to be sad and get all these fun perks! Sincero paints depression as something you can just snap out of because you want to do better.
You are a Badass relies heavily on a belief in some core system. In the book, this core system is referred to as the “G” word, the Universe, the Source Energy, your mantra, etc. It’s a bit insulting that Sincero mentions several times it’s not about the spiritual end of things, and then in the next chapter, she tells you to get involved with your Source Energy to be able to get past your big hurdles in life.
If I wanted religious advice, I’d turn to my priest.
After a while, I decided to finish the book, and see if Sincero had some redeeming points after all. (And I was unemployed and bored, yah’ll) There are some high points in this book. There are actually a few exercises I have tried or plan to try.
While I believe this book could be reworked, overall, it’s a decent to the point introduction on self-care. Chapter One held the greatest impact for me and made me realize there were some habits I was holding into because they were comfortable and inherited habits from my family members. And believe me- they’re not the best people to emulate. But there are some glaring problems that makes me think I can’t share the better part of the book.
Maybe Sincero should check in with her Source Energy and produce a second edition that’s more coherent and recognizes her falsehoods on mental illness and her privilege.
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